D has been home for three weeks! He started back to school last week and transitioned well. In fact, he said he wished there was school this week because he's missed it so much! We were hoping he would be able to sign up for football so he could lift weights and practice with the team in the off season but so far, the school hasn't approved his late enrollment. Everything else seems to be going well. Well... most everything.
I'm having an extremely hard time transitioning. I'm so used to hovering over him and not allowing him to do to anything (due to poor behavior and not trusting him) that I'm not sure where the line should be drawn. I want to allow him to be 15 and hang with his friends, stay up late, have a cell phone, etc but I just don't trust him yet. The other day he started arguing with me and it freaked me out. I flipped and sent him to his room. I thought about it and later apologized for being so quick to lash out and assume that he was being defiant. He was just being 15. He will be an adult in 2 and a half years... I know it's time to allow him to have his own opinions and start figuring out his voice but it scares me. Where is the line? I know it is fine.
What are your thoughts?
Pray about it! I think you are doing well. Trust in bits and pieces. Start off with baby steps. If he obeys a curfew allow him to continue to go out. Put a limited amount of texts/minutes on his phone and if he obeys you can give him more. I'm no parent but baby steps sounds like a good plan. Rebuild trust. He's a renewed person. I believe he will do fine. He wants to enjoy his new life :)
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